What should I do with my out-of-work husband?

[lostandstressed]

I have been married for over a year. We have been living together for 2 and half years. He has never had a job even though I have gotten him interviews and job offers in the fields that he said are his dream jobs, i.e. video game developer and pyrotechnic apprentice. His excuse if that he is going to school. He is taking 3 college classes a semester and is getting paid $1200/mo from the GI bill (our rent is $1250). I pay all bills even though he gets paid. He plays his Xbox360 for over 40hrs/wk including all Friday and Saturday nights. He sees nothing wrong with this and oh, I am in the middle of medical school. What do you think?

[tricianglen@sbcglobal.net]

im going to have to agree if you put up with it this long you don't have a problem with it so just try to get him to be more domestic or.......You could start going out and hanging out with your med-friends and doing things of that nature he will then try to better himself a little.
I think you should try the domestication just give him ample time to do the chores like a week so you won't sound like a nag.
you cant change him I am sure he didn't wake up yesterday and decide to be a slacker. good luck

[Alicia F]

I don't want to bad talk your hubby....but my father didn't work for years and left my mother to take care of me and him.
I love my father, but that's a dead-beat dad/husband.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life living pay check to paycheck and barely getting by?
You need to figure out what's best for yourself.
I suggest talking to him, and maybe giving him an ultimatum

[luckystar]

what you need to do is stop him from sitting on his but, time
for him to get a job and start paying the bills. time for him
to put up or time to get out.

[chicago floater]

you must love him cuz he is still your man. suck it up and pay the bills

[GORDO BLAKHART]

Turn him into a homeless out of work husband.

[amysaysrelax]

Give yourself a time limit on how long you plan to continue to put up with his using you. Let him know, nicely, that you would appreciate him kicking in on the rent since he gets $1200 a month. Sit down with him and ask him where he sees himself, and your relationship in 5 years or 10 years, when he thinks he will graduate and what his plan is then. If he can't give you an acceptable answer, nicely explain to him that you do have a plan and it doesn't include supporting him forever.

It sounds to me like you already know what you need to do, but just need people to validate your feelings. Good luck!